The Power of Speaking Truth: How Authenticity Can Transform Your Life.

I want to thank everyone who reached out to show their support and kindness.

One thing I want to stress is by speaking my truth, I'm leaving it in 2024. The New Year gives us a chance to start fresh and new. Leaving the things that no longer serve us in the past. Pain, hurt, trauma and insecurities. Yes, heal them but let them go. Hurt people, hurt people. I hate that saying but it's true. People project and mirror. It's human nature and their experiences in life follow them unless they can be self-reflective of their own behaviors. You have to change yourself mentally to be a better version of you.

I know I'm not perfect. I have made my own mistakes and paid the prices for them, but I refuse to let my past define who I am or who I want to be. After all the pain and hurt, I have sat in the discomfort and felt the pain. It's not easy holding yourself accountable for making bad decisions in life and having to wade through the shit alone to get through the other side. The only person who can heal you, is yourself. It's worth it.

I still get triggered. My number one trigger is when I feel misunderstood or not heard. It makes me angry. I feel sometimes that people say, "Why don't you ever ask for help?". Well, the answer comes from a wound that happened many years ago. That I couldn't get the support and love I needed when I needed it the most. I've never truly felt people accepted me for me. I was left to my own devices to support myself weather that be emotionally, mentally, or physically. I always had to figure things out. That's my own wound that I'm actively working on.

Also, learning that you cannot have expectations for other people. The only person you can have expectations for is, well you. You cannot expect people to change unless they want to change for themselves. When you meet people, you either accept them for who they are or walk away. Do not try to change others even if it's because you see the potential. You see that they have greatness in them. Some people do not have the capacity to change, or they simply do not want to change. Do not fight a losing battle. It's like running into a brick wall over and over again. Enduring someone else's pain because they refuse to grow as a person.

So, I'm setting a goal for 2025. To let go of the fear, write this blog from the heart, and do not let other people's judgements hold me back from helping others. Shame is not a word I recognize anymore. I will not live in shame to protect others. I will speak my truth, with kindness.